Why Rape Is Seriously Hilarious

I’ve met and heard of several men who at some point have been sexually violated when they didn’t or couldn’t consent. Many of those who tells their story have done so in a bragging way: “I got laid at 8 with a 16 year old girl“, “she wanted me so badly so that when I woke up I already found her sucking my dick” and so on. Why would a boy/man who have been raped make light of his victimization in this manner? Why would they frame their victimization as someting hilariously funny? This video illustrates perfectly why:





RAINN Goes Against The Grain

This post was also published on Feminist Critics.


On February 28th RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) published their recommendations for the White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault, which President Obama has charged with creating a plan to reduce rape on college campuses.

RAINN is the United States’ largest anti-sexual violence organization and is generally well-respected. They run the DoD Safe Helpline on behalf of the Department of Defense. So I think we can safely assume that RAINN does have some lobbying clout on this issue.

RAINN really went against many of the more common feminist talking points/strategies against rape in their recommendation. This hasn’t gone completely unnoticed among feminists as can be seen in this post on Feministing and in some of the comments on RAINN’s Facebook post about their recommendations to the White House Task Force. But I have to say I expected a bit more discussion of this in feminist circles, all things considered. So let’s look at what RAINN wrote which I think will be viewed as problematic by some feminists.

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South Africa: Rape and partner violence among youths

South Africa is said to be the worlds rape capital according to a report published in 2012 by the Institute for Security Studies (ISS) think-tank. That report only looked at female victims of rape. Searching Google News one quickly sees that sexual violence and rape in South Africa is prevalent and has been for quite some time. One also note that women and girls are the most common victims mentioned – although rape against young male children are also mentioned. Perpetrators are always male. So the impression one is left with is: Women and girls (but also some boys) are raped by male perpetrators in disturbingly high numbers.

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Open letter to David Futrelle

I left the following question (currently in moderation at Man boobz it has now been approved – possibly because I made a typo in an HTML anchor tag I now remembered that I was put on moderation for discussing Mary P Koss’ paper where she argues that it’s inappropriate to call it rape when a man has unwanted sex with a woman) on a thread on Man boobz after seeing this comment by the blog owner David Futrelle:

David Futrelle:

I actually think it makes sense to categorize made-to-penetrate as a form of sexual violence other than rape, and to use the term rape for sexual acts in which the victim is penetrated. In any case, it is sexual violence and needs to be taken seriously.

David, a woman decided to put my penis inside her vagina without prior consent while I was asleep. I call and refer to what happened to me as rape. Are you telling me I am mistaken? That I should stop calling that rape?

James Landrith who has courageously publicly spoke about being a male rape survivor on CNN, HuffingtonPost and other places (at great personal cost and attacks from people like this who also don’t think that “rape-by-envelopment” is rape.). Is he mistaken in his self-identification? Should he stop referring to himself as a rape survivor?

I’ll check in on that Man boobz thread a couple of times the next few days and update this post if there is any reply by David Futrelle.

David Futrelle have in a comment of his own replied to the comment I posted at his blog, here is his reply in its entirety:

Tamen, you were sexually assaulted. What happened to you was a violation of your bodily autonomy. I take that seriously. No, I would not classify that as rape, but I’m not going to tell you what you should call it, because it’s your experience.

Calling something a sexual assault, or “sexual violence other than rape” does not diminish it or erase the experience of the person who suffered it. Sexual assaults other than rapes deserve to be taken seriously just as rapes do.


Update: After quite a discussion on that thread where also several of the “regulars” stated that made to penetrate ought to be categorized as rape David Futrell have posted a comment where he states that he has changed his mind. Here is an excerpt of that comment:

But I’ve been convinced by the comments here that this is probably overoptimistic on my part. If made-to-penetrate needs to be called rape to be taken as seriously as what has traditionally been called rape, then it should be called rape.

So, yes, I have changed my mind on this. Made-to-penetrate should be classified as rape.


Man fined 1.000 USD for being raped

UPDATE3: Feminist Pia Bitcsch has written a pretty good article on this case in Aftenposten (in Norwegian). She has been in contact with the man’s lawyer and has confirmed that four witnesses testified that the man indeed was asleep when the womens started to have oral sex with him.

UPDATE: The man have now been convicted and have to pay the fine and probably court fees as well as his attorney’s fees (he wasn’t eligible for a public defender). The court didn’t believe that he was asleep and found it proven that he was aware of and accepted it when the two women performed  oral sex on him. The extent he didn’t consider the surroundings and where this took place (in public) were due to his self-inflicted intoxicated state the court wrote. The court acknowledges that the man was very intoxicated when this happened. The first police officer on the site reported that the man was lying on his back with his penis exposed and that one of the woman was on top of him, with her clothes on. He states that when the police addressed the three the defendant was difficult to get a response from. Eventually he rose up and pulled his pants up. The defendant appeared a bit aggressive and didn’t want to talk to the police. The police officer opinionated that the defendant had clearly been under the influences of narcotics and not just alcohol.

Again I’ll iterate the wording in Norwegian rape law: “sexual activity with somebody who is unconscious or for any other reason incapable of resisting the act” is rape. If the man was very intoxicated and unresponsive it doesn’t sound to me like he was capable of resisting the act.

Source: http://www.nettavisen.no/nyheter/article3692877.ece


I have sent an email to the court requesting access to the verdict in full.

UPDATE 2: I have now received the verdict in full. I was surprised to learn that they didn’t even redact the names of the people involved. In short it doesn’t seem to state much more than the newspaper article about the verdict. There was four witnesses. Two people eating at the restaurant watching the event unfold, one of the women performing oral sex on the defendant and the policeman who first came to the scene.

Neither of the two witnesses from the restaurant were quoted in the verdict on any statements about the  man’s level of intoxication and whether he was unconscious or not when the women performed oral sex on him. The verdict stated that these witnesses saw the man and the two women, all who appeared intoxicated, settle on the grass outside the restaurant window.  Then all three rolled around and the women started to put grass in the man’s pants. The man had no pants and suddenly his pants on boxershorts were on his knees and the women started to play with his penis. After a while they switched performing fellatio on him.  After 15 minutes or so the restaurant guests’ food arrived and they didn’t want to watch this while they ate so they called the police. The verdict does not state whether the witnesses think the man is incapacitated when the oral sex commences.

The police arrived shortly after. The police officer arriving at the scene testified that the defendant was lying on the ground with his penis exposed and that one of the women was lying on top of him with her clothes on. The officer approached all three. It was hard to establish contact with the defendant and the police officer considered the man to be very intoxicated. After a while the man stood up and pulled up his pants. He was not interested in talking to the police and appeared to have an somewhat aggressive demeanor. An “sign- and symptom test” (a test to look for signs and symptoms of intoxication from alcohol and or drugs) was not possibe to administer (the reason why is not stated in the verdict). Later at the police station the a breathalizer test showed a 0.44 BAC by mass. The police were convinced that the man was under the influence of drugs in addition to alcohol.

The women admitted to having performed oral sex on the man in public. The verdict does not state whether the women considered the man to be incapacitated when they started to perform oral sex on him.

The verdict finds it proven that the man particpated in the oral sex the women performed on him, it states that the defendant participated and accepted the act. To the extent that the defendant didn’t consider the surroundings and where he was is attributed to his self-inflicted intoxication. The court therefore stipulates that the defendant wasn’t asleep when the act occured as the defendant claimed.

I wonder how the court court did find this proved and what they based their stipulation on since the verdict didn’t cite any witnesses directly supporting the court’s ruling.

The court clerk who provided that verdict stated that the defendant have appealed the verdict. I do not know when the appeal is scheduled.

This is a post about a news story in one of the larger online newspapers in Norway. They report about a case where a man and two women have been fined appr. 1.000 USD each for indecent behaviour in public and public exposure. The two women performed oral sex on the man in the afternoon (4:45pm) on a public place outside a restaurant only a few meters from the police station. Some members of the public contacted the police who promptly arrived on the scene, made the involved stop the sex act and issued the fines. The two women have since accepted the fine while the man hasn’t and he is now appearing for the court trying to defend himself against the fine.

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Rape Culture

This comment was written in reply to a post at Good Men Project where the author listed up a long list of examples of rape culture, some of them related to the Steubenville case others not. Examples of rape culture regarding male rape, male rape victims and female rapists were as usual missing, so I wrote a comment listing a few:

I have some more examples left out from the original article:

Rape culture is thing like this:

Although consideration of male victims is within the scope of the legal statutes, it is important to restrict the term rape to instances where male victims were penetrated by offenders. It is inappropriate to consider as a rape victim a man who engages in unwanted sexual intercourse with a woman.

Mary P Koss in Detecting the Scope of Rape
A Review of Prevalence Research Methods

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