This comment was written in reply to a post at Good Men Project where the author listed up a long list of examples of rape culture, some of them related to the Steubenville case others not. Examples of rape culture regarding male rape, male rape victims and female rapists were as usual missing, so I wrote a comment listing a few:
I have some more examples left out from the original article:
Rape culture is thing like this:
Although consideration of male victims is within the scope of the legal statutes, it is important to restrict the term rape to instances where male victims were penetrated by offenders. It is inappropriate to consider as a rape victim a man who engages in unwanted sexual intercourse with a woman.
That article has been cited in publications from the CDC, which “incidentally” did classify “being made to penetrate someone else” as not rape in their NISVS 2010 report – with the justification that doing so would inflate male rape victimization numbers:
Being made to penetrate is a form of sexual victimization distinct from rape that is particularly unique to males and, to our knowledge, has not been explicitly measured in previous national studies. It is possible that rape questions in prior studies captured the experience of being made to penetrate someone else, resulting in higher prevalence estimates for male rape in those studies.
Rape culture is saying:
Only men can stop rape.
Rape culture is blaming a victim for the hurt they are causing the perpetrator simply by being traumatized.
Rape culture is the willingness to throw other victims under the bus in order to protect oneself from false accusations.
Rape culture is opposing rape laws because they may result in false accusations:
By introducing gender neutrality in the law, the government is projecting a falsified image as though there was indeed some semblance of equality in the crimes that are committed against both men and women.
What relief can a woman expect if on being harassed herself, she finds that her attacker has already filed a case against her in order to protect himself?
Rape culture is outright denying the existence of rape victims:
Rape, as we know, is a crime largely defined as male violence against women, with absolutely no evidence of women as perpetrators. This is in disregard to the Justice Verma recommendations and totally unacceptable,” said leading women rights lawyer Madhu Mehra.
Rape culture is they are leery about calling it tape when someone has intercourse with someone against their voiced non-consent:
He [Ian] reminded her (they’d known each other for a while) that intercourse was off limits. But at one point, she suddenly straddled Ian, grabbed his erection, and slid his penis inside of her. He ejaculated within seconds.
I’m leery about applying the term too quickly to Ian’s story
Rape culture is joking that the apparent rise in reported cases of statutory rape of male pupils by female tutors are due to teenaged boys looking better these days:
Has adult female attraction for young boys always been around, and is only now becoming public? Certainly the bulk of teen boys are not at the peak of their beauty, which may have something to do with it; has the prevalence of Retin-A, the importance of grooming and weight-lifting, distasteful as the question may be, had anything to do with the strange up-swing?
Followed up by a comment from Erin Ryan Gold (who not long after became an editor at Jezebel) making the first comment* which puts the blame for statutory rape one the victims:
This problem would go away if teachers would just stop being so hot.
Rape culture is saying it’s not really rape when it’s done to a man:
That is, the meaning of a woman giving oral sex to a man who is asleep is profoundly different from the meaning of a man giving oral sex to a woman who is asleep.
* Since I originally posted this comment Erin Gloria Ryan’s comment on the linked Jezebel article is no longer there. I’ve changed the link to go to a screencap of that article and her comment.